Don’t assume you know what others go through – Just Be kind, always…… Be nice to others.

A girl by name Deepa went to school in the neighbouring village where she wasn’t known well.

For three weeks, she came to school late and every day the teacher punished her.

On the fourth week, Deepa didn’t attend school at all and many thought she had GIVEN UP on school due to the everyday punishment.

However, Deepa reported again on fifth week and this time she came earlier than everybody.

When the teacher came to class, Deepa was punished for not attending school the previous week but the teacher was also kind enough to commend her for coming early that day, stating that the punishments had finally yielded some results.

Just then, Deepa asked if she could say something and the teacher gave her permission.

She started :
” I’ve been raised up by a single mother without a brother or a sister. Five weeks ago, my mother fell ill and was hospitalized. The three weeks I came late, I had to prepare something for her every morning and pass by the hospital to deliver the same. Unfortunately, my mother passed away last week and that’s the reason I didn’t come to school. We buried her last Friday. Today I came early since I didn’t have to prepare anything or even pass by the hospital. And now that she is gone, I will always be here early”

As she sat down, no one in the whole class was able to hold their tears, the teacher was not spared either.

Lesson:
How many times do we judge others for things we know not ?

We ask questions like :
– Why you are not getting married?
– Why you are not having kids ?
– When will you find a job ?
– When will you buy a car?
– When will you build a house?
etc….

Do we attempt to understand their situations or we just judge from the case scenarios

Some situations are not relative and what we think could be very far from the truth.

Don’t assume you know what others go through or that people move in the same pace or direction as you.

Be kind, always…… Be nice to others.

Who is your life partner??? – Your real life partner is Your Body.

Who is your life partner???

Mother?
Dad?
Husband /wife?
Best friend?
Son?
Daughter??
Teacher?
Principal?

Or someone else… ????

Remember ! Your real life partner is Your Body.

You and your body stay together from the beginning of your life till your last breath.

You enjoy each relationship in this world that you feel is good for you..
But you also play an important role with your body.

What you do to your body is your responsibility and that will come back to You.
The more you care for your body, the more your body will care for You.

What you eat..
What you do for being Fit…
How u deal with stress (physical/mental/emotional)
How much rest you give to it..
Will decide how your body gonna respond in your day to day life.

Remember your body is the only permanent address where You live.

What your body wants is?
Love
Care
Respect
Politeness
Humbleness
Honesty

Your body is your responsibility.
Because…
You are Your real life partner.

Be Fit forever.
Take care💃🏿

How to Work Less and Get More Done

10 Commandments of SCRUM

The management development process that has transformed the technology industry and is revolutionizing how business works:

  1. One Meeting a Day. In fifteen minutes, you can coordinate your efforts, align your team, and discover obstacles to progress. Get rid of status meetings, and two hour-long searches for blame.
  2. Make Work Visible. One of the biggest time wastes in American corporations is team members not knowing what other people are working on. It results in duplication, wasted effort, secrecy, working on the wrong things, working on the same things, and spending effort on things that don’t matter. Simply putting all the work up on a wall on sticky notes in three columns–To Do, Doing, Done–will eliminate huge amounts of waste. The fastest teams in the fastest companies know what everyone is working on.
  3. Keep Teams Small. If your team is more than 9 people, it’s too big. Smaller is better. A huge amount of research shows that small teams cost less, produce more, and deliver faster than big teams. A team of five will work faster than a team of twenty. Adding people to a late project will only complicate the process and make the project later.
  4. Eliminate Agendas – Create Deliverable. Before every meeting, everyone involved needs to have a clear understanding of what the deliverable of the meeting is. Does a decision have to be made that can’t be in any other way? Make every meeting produce something. If the deliverable can’t be articulated, don’t have the meeting.
  5. Forget Titles; Tear Up Your Business Cards. The best teams all have one job title: Team Member. Research shows that the more specialized the roles in an organization, the slower the organization will be. Keep the titles for external use if you have to. Within the group, job titles slow things down, measurably.
  6. No Interruptions. Humans are absolutely terrible at multitasking. Sadly, the research is clear that the people who think they are the best at it are actually the worst. Every time you switch tasks, from crafting a report to answering an email, your productivity plummets. Do one thing at a time. Create uninterrupted time. You will be stunned by the increase in productivity
  7. One Project at a Time. When you ask people how much of their time they spend working on a specific project it is usually less than fifty percent, and often twenty percent. Assign team members to one project 100 percent until that is done. Then go to the next one. We’ve been in companies where management claims one project is the top priority for the company–that it is a make or break project. But the people assigned to that project aren’t spending 100 percent of their time on it. It’s flabbergasting, but all too common.
  8. Prioritize. Often organizations have four or five projects going on at once, with team members switching from project to project. Everything is a priority. But when management implies that, what they are really saying is that nothing is a priority. Focus on the project with the most value. Put it at the top of the queue. Work to get it to done and then move to the next project. By focusing on one project at a time, you will deliver those five projects in less time than it would have taken if you’d worked on them all at once. And you or your customers will be making revenue off it months earlier.
  9. No Heroes. When someone makes a heroic effort to save a project–to deliver it successfully on time and under budget–they usually get slaps on the backs and high fives. But heroics aren’t a sign of greatness. They are a sign of a deeply dysfunctional system. Why were heroics required? Bad planning? Heroism should be viewed as an organizational failure, not celebrated. A Hail Mary pass in football, even if completed, is an act of desperation, not the sign of a successful team.
  10. Burn the Timesheets. Measuring how many hours an employee puts into a project is a meaningless metric. Yet it has somehow become how we pay our employees, how we write contracts, and how we evaluate effort. It’s an old saw, but whatever you measure you get more of. Does it really matter how long it took to create something? Isn’t the real metric the deliverable, the value created? Measure output, not input, and you’ll get more value delivered in less time. With SCRUM, our motto is work less, get more done. Equating hours with effort is a fool’s errand.

Spiritual conversation between Diogenes and Alexander the Great

So many stories about Diogenes, Alexander had heard and had loved. He said, “I would like to go and meet him.” It was early morning, the sun was rising. Diogenes was lying on the sand on the bank of the river taking a sunbath. Alexander felt a little awkward, because Diogenes was naked. He also felt embarrassed because this was the first time that somebody had continued to lie down in front of him—”Perhaps the man does not know who I am.”

So he said, “Perhaps you are unaware of the person who has come to meet you.” Diogenes laughed.

He also used to have a dog. That was his only companion. Asked why he had made a dog a friend, he said, “Because I could not find a man worth making a friend.” He looked at the dog who was sitting by his side and said, “Listen to what this stupid man is saying. He is saying I do not know who he is. The fact is, he himself does not know who he is. Now what to do with such idiots? You tell me.”

Shocked but it was a fact. Still, Alexander tried to make some conversation. He bypassed the insult. He said, “I am Alex-
ander the Great.’

Diogenes said, ‘ ‘My God.” He looked at the dog and said, “Did you hear that?”—that was his constant habit, to refer to the dog— “Did you hear that? This man thinks himself the greatest man in the world. That is a sure sign of an inferiority complex. Only people who suffer from inferiority pretend to be great; the greater the inferiority the more they start projecting themselves higher, bigger, vaster.”

But he said to Alexander, “What is the point of your coming to me? A poor man, a nobody, whose only possession is a lamp, whose only companion in this whole world is a dog, who lives naked For what have you come here?”

Alexander said, “I have heard many stories about you, and now I can see that all those stories are bound to be real—you are certainly a strange man, but in a way immensely beautiful. I am going to conquer the world, and I heard you are just residing here. I could not resist the temptation to come and see.’

Diogenes said, “You have seen me. Now don’t waste time, because life is short and the world is big—you may die before you conquer it. And have you ever considered if you succeed In conquering this world, what are you going to do next?—because there is no other world than this. You will look simply foolish. And can I ask you, why are you taking so much trouble conquering the world? You call me strange, someone who is just having a beautiful sunbath. But you don’t think yourself strange, stupidly strange, that you are on your way to conquer the world? For what? What will you do when you have conquered the world?”

Alexander said, “I have never thought about it, to be frank with you. Perhaps I will relax and rest when I have conquered the world.”

Diogenes turned to the dog and said, “Do you listen? This man is mad. He is seeing me already resting, relaxing—without
conquering a thing! And he will relax when he has conquered the whole world.”

Alexander felt ashamed. There was truth, so clear, so crystal clear—if you want to rest and relax, you can rest and relax now. Why postpone it for tomorrow? And you are postponing it for an indefinite time. Meanwhile you will have to conquer the whole world, as if conquering the whole world is a necessary step in being relaxed and finding a restful life.

I am looking foolish Alexander said, “I can understand before you. Can I do anything for you? I have really fallen in love with you. I have seen great kings, great generals, but I have never seen such a courageous man as you, who has not even moved, who has not even said ‘Good morning.’ Who fias not bothered about me—on the contrary, who goes on talking to his dog! I can do anything, because the whole world is in my hands. You just say, and I will do it for you.”

Diogenes said, “Really? Then just do one thing: Stand a little away from me, because you are blocking the sun. I am taking a sunbath, and you don’t understand even simple manners.”

Alexander remembered him continually. All through his journey to India and back, that man haunted him—the fact that he did not ask for anything. He could have given him the whole world just for the asking, but he asked only that Alexander move a little away because he was preventing the sun from reaching his body. As he was leaving, Diogenes had said, “Just remember two things, as a gift from Diogenes: One, that nobody has ever conquered the world. Something always remains unconquered because the world is multidimensional; you cannot conquer it in all its dimensions in such a small life. Hence everybody who has gone to conquer the world has died frustrated.

“Second, you will never come back home. Because this is how ambition goes on leading you farther and farther: It goes on telling you, ‘Just a few miles more. A few miles more and you will be attaining the very ambition of your heart.’ And people go on chasing hallucinations, and life goes on slipping through their hands. Just remember these two things as gifts from a poor man, a nobody.”

Alexander thanked him—although in the cool morning he each thing he said would was perspiring. That man was such
make you perspire even in the cold breeze on a cold morning, because he would hit exactly the wounds that you are hiding.

A strange coincidence: The day Alexander died, Diogenes also died. In Greek mythology, like many other mythologies

In Indian mythology the same is the case: Before entering the other world you have to pass through a river, the Vaitarani. In Greek mythology also you have to cross a river; that river is the boundary line of this world and that world.

Up to now, whatever I said is historical fact. But after the death of Diogenes and Alexander, this story became prevalent all over Greece. It is very significant. It cannot be historical, but it is very close to truth. It is not factual. That’s how I make the difference between facts and truth: A thing may be factual, but still untrue; a thing may be nonfactual, but still true. A story may be just a myth—not history, but of immense significance because it indicates toward truth.

It is said that Diogenes died a few minutes after the death of Alexander. They met while crossing the river—Alexander was ahead, Diogenes was coming behind. Hearing the sound Alexander looked back. It was an even more embarrassing encounter than the first one, because at least at that time Alexander was not naked; this time he was also naked.

But people try to rationalize, try to hide their embarrassment. So just to hide his embarrassment he said, “Hello, Diogenes. Perhaps this may be the first time in the whole history of existence that a great emperor and a naked beggar are crossing the river together.”

Diogenes said, “It is, but you are not clear about who is the emperor and who is the beggar. The emperor is behind the beggar. You wasted your life; still you are stubborn! Where is your empire? I have not lost anything because I had nothing, only that lamp. That, too, I had found by the side of the road—I don’t know to whom it belongs—and by the side of the road I have left it. I had gone into the world naked; I am coming from the world naked.”

That’s what Kabir says in one of his songs—Jyon ki tyon dhari “I have used the dinhin chadariyas Kabira jatan se odhi chadariya— clothes of life with such care and such awareness that I have returned to God his gift exactly as it was given to me.”

Henry Ford and Opportunities

Somebody asked Henry Ford—because he had given a statement: “My success is through nothing but catching the right opportunity at the right moment.

People either think of opportunities that are in the future, you cannot catch hold of them, or they think of opportunities that have passed. When they are gone and only dust is left on the road, then they become aware that the opportunity has passed.”

Somebody asked, “But if you don’t think of an opportunity in the future and you don’t think of an opportunity that has passed, how suddenly can you get hold of it when it comes? You have to be ready.”
 
He said, “Not ready—you have to be just jumping. One never knows when it comes. When it comes, just jump upon it!”
 
What Henry Ford said has tremendous meaning. He said, “You simply keep on jumping. You don’t wait; don’t bother whether an opportunity is there or not: Just go on jumping. One never knows when it comes. When it comes, jump upon it and be done. If you go on looking into the future, wondering when the opportunity is coming … The future is unpredictable. If you wait, thinking ‘When it comes I will catch hold of it,’ by the time you become aware that it is there, it is gone. Time is fleeting, so fast, only dust will be there.
 
“Rather,” he said, “forget about opportunities, simply learn jumping, so whenever it comes .. .”

How To Develop Your Personal Goals & Succeed At Accomplishing Them

Smart Goals

If you want to start taking charge of your life, let me urge you to try personal goal setting as a first start Goal setting is a powerful process for thinking about what you want to accomplish in a given time period. I can provide you with guidance in setting personal goals for this year. Let’s get started.

Why Set Personal Goals?

Goal setting is useful for anyone who wants to achieve something. The choices are limitless. One of the most common goals is losing weight. Other examples of goals include planning a trip, writing a book, achieving a certain GPA, organizing or redecorating a room in your home. Think about what you want to accomplish this year let’s say by the end of the year.

To brainstorm some ideas to start with, complete this assessment.

Step 1: Life Balance Assessment

Let’s think about these areas of your life. Now consider how satisfied you are with these areas of your life. Give each item a rating of 1-10. The higher the score, the more satisfied you are with that part of your life.

  1. Profession
  2. Money/managing finances
  3. Family Relationships
  4. Socializing
  5. Emotional Health
  6. Physical Health
  7. Nutrition
  8. Sleep
  9. Spirituality
  10. Having Fun/Enjoying life

This exercise is to get the juices flowing about your current life: where is it out of balance, what’s working and what’s not going so well. Jot down some of your own ideas and then identify what areas of your life you want to improve. Keep your choices limited to 3 of your most important selections and these will represent your personal goals.

Step 2: Developing Your Goals

There are a variety of goal setting tools you can use. My personal favorite is the SMART model. SMART stands for:

S – Specific

M– Measurable goals

A – Attainable/Action-Oriented

R – Realistic

T – Time Bound (tracking progress)

Use the SMART Goals grid below to write out your goals. Take the first goal and define exactly what you want to occur.

SMART GOALS GRID

Goals:Identify priority goals
Be Specific
Actions
Outcomes = What you want to achieve
Strategies/Action Steps
Start Date Completion Date

 

Example #1: Lose Weight

Let’s say you want to lose some weight. How many pounds do you want to lose? Identify the specific amount you want to lose. Next identify some time frames. What is the date I want to start this plan? I want to lose __ pounds by September, 2013. Think about what is a realistic amount of weight for you to loose within a given time frame-let’s say one month. Then think about what specific steps you need to take to achieve this goal. Also, consider how you will track your results. What resources will you need? Examples of actions steps:

  1. Exercise plan
  2. Food plan
  3. Weight coach/program/specific diet
  4. Daily and weekly accountability
  5. Motivations/rewards
  6. Identify the obstacles

Achieving Our Goals

According to Heidi Grant Halvorson, PhD, and author of the book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals, “planning when, where and how you will take the actions needed to reach your goal is probably the single most effective thing you can do to increase your chances of success.” She further states that believing in yourself, and believing that you will achieve your goals also contributes to the success.

It’s in the power of positive thinking. Beliefs about our strengths and weaknesses play a large role in determining the goals you set for yourself. It’s not just whether you believe you have the ability that matters. What’s most important is whether you think you can get the ability.

Carol Dweck’s book on Mindset gives us powerful insights on how people’s mindset can have a huge impact on the outcome of their goals. What we learn from her is how we have the ability to change our mindset.

When Psychologist Gabriele Oettingen studied the motivational impact of believing you will succeed at your goal in her research project, she found that the women in her study who believed it would be easy to reach their goals were actually less successful in resisting temptation and achieving their actual weight loss goals. In contrast, the group of women who were successful believed that it would be a difficult road. These women put more effort into succeeding and took more action. They expected to work harder.

The optimal strategy is to think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal while thinking “realistically” about what it will take to get there over time. As the obstacles arise as one expects, dialogue or write about them, know that they will not stand in the way of succeeding at your ultimate goal.

Final Thoughts

  • Select a goal that is important to you.
  • Use the SMART goals to define realistic goals and steps to achieving them
  • Identify a start date and time frames for achieving your goal
  • Plan ahead before starting.  What resources do you need?
  • Get the support you need to keep you on track.  Hire a coach or join a group or structured program.
  • Give yourself rewards for small successes along the way.
  • Identify the obstacles think about how you will deal with them.

– See more at: http://victoriaroche.com/how-to-develop-your-personal-goals-succeed-at-accomplishing-them#sthash.AmBQKAD4.dpuf

 

Personal Goal Setting

Planning to Live Your Life Your Way

Many people feel as if they’re adrift in the world. They work hard, but they don’t seem to get anywhere worthwhile.

A key reason that they feel this way is that they haven’t spent enough time thinking about what they want from life, and haven’t set themselves formal goals. After all, would you set out on a major journey with no real idea of your destination? Probably not!

Goal setting is a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn your vision of this future into reality.

The process of setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in life. By knowing precisely what you want to achieve, you know where you have to concentrate your efforts. You’ll also quickly spot the distractions that can, so easily, lead you astray.

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Motivation Quote in Gujarati

થોડાક શબ્દો ઉચ્ચારવાથી અગ્નિની સાક્ષીએ લગ્ન થાય છે અને
થોડાક વધુ શબ્દો ઉચ્ચારવાથી ઘરમાં અગ્નિનો સાક્ષાત્કાર થાય છે!

ધુળ જેવી છે જીંદગી આપણી આંસુડા રેડી એમાં કિચ્ચડ ના કર .!!!

કાયદાનું શિક્ષણ મેં એટલી સારી રીતે હાંસલ કયું કે કાયદાનો અભ્યાસ પુરો થયા
પછી મેં મારી કોલેજ પર દાવો માંડ્યો અને મારી સઘળી ટ્યુશન ફી પાછી મેળવી…

સંતાનને સારા સંસ્કાર આપવા ગમે તેટલા પ્રયાસ કરો …..
આખરે તો એ મા-બાપનેજ અનુસરશે !

બરફ જેવી છે આ જીંદગી …
જેનો ભુતકાળ પણ પાણી અને ભવિષ્યકાળ પણ પાણી ….

પ્રશ્નો તો રહેવાના જ. સુખી લોકોને પ્રશ્ન થાય કે શું કરીએ તો ભૂખ લાગે,
અને દુઃખી લોકોનો પ્રશ્ન છે કે ભૂખ તો લાગે છે, પણ શું કરીએ!

ઇશ્વરનું બેલેન્સ કેવું અદભુત છે …
પાંચ મણ ઘઉંની બોરી ઉપાડી શકે તે મજુર એકી સાથે ખરીદી ના શકે;
અને જે ખરીદી શકે છે, તે શેઠ તેને ઊપાડી ના શકે.

કેટલાક લોકોનું દિલ દરિયા જેવું વિશાળ હોય છે, જેમાં એક ચકલું ય પોતાની તરસ ના છિપાવી શકે !!!

સાચવવા પડે એ સંબંધો કદી સાચા નથી હોતા,
અને જો સંબંધો સાચા હોય, તો એને સાચવવા નથી પડતા.

વ્યવહાર નથી બદલાતા સંજોગો બદલાય છે,
માણસ નથી બદલાતા ખાલી તેમના અભિગમ બદલાય છે.

* માણસને સાચા સ્વરૂપમાં ઓળખવો હોય તો તેને સતાસ્થાને બેસાડો.

* જીવનમાં એટલી બધી ભૂલો ના કરવી કે પેન્સિલ પેહલા જ રબર ઘસાઈ જાય!

* જીવનમાં ફક્ત એક સારી વ્યક્તિનો સાથ હોય તો આખી જિંદગી જીવી શકાય છે,
પણ ક્યારેક ફક્ત એ એક સારી વ્યક્તિની શોધમાં આખી જિંદગી વીતી જાય છે!

* દરેક માણસ પાસે એક એવું મોટું કબ્રસ્તાન હોવું જોઇએ, કે જેમાં એ પોતાના મિત્રોના દોષો દફનાવી શકે!

* મિત્ર એ એવી વ્યક્તિ છે કે જે તમારા હ્દયમા ગુંજ્તા ગીતને જાણે છે, અને
એ જ ગીતને યાદ કરાવે છે જ્યારે તમે ગીતના શબ્દો ભુલી જાઓ છો.

અને છેલ્લે ….
શ્વાસ ખુટી જાય અને ઈચ્છાઓ બાકી રહી જાય, તે મોત!
ઈચ્છાઓ ખુટી જાય અને શ્વાસ બાકી રહે, તે મોક્ષ!

AMAZING STORY…..

An old man lived alone in a village. He wanted to Spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in Prison.

The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned His situation:

——————————

Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t Be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to Miss doing the garden, because your mother always Loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be Digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my
Troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot For me, if you weren’t in prison.
Love,
Dad

——————————

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: “For Heaven’s sake, Dad, doesn’t dig up the garden!! That’s Where I buried the GUNS!!”
At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and Local police officers showed up and dug up the entire Garden without finding any guns.
Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son Telling him what happened, and asked him what to do Next.
His son’s reply was: “Go ahead and plant your Potatoes, Dad.. It’s the best I could do for you from Here.”

Moral:

NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE WORLD, IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING DEEP FROM YOUR HEART YOU CAN DO IT. IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT MATTERS NOT WHERE YOU ARE OR WHERE THE PERSON IS.

9 Things You Must Absolutely Do To Having Winning Relationships At Work

Hi,

Today morning i have received monthly newsletter “February Newsletter – The Business of Relationships” from Robin Sharma which i like to share with you

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Included in the Top 10 Best Companies to Work For (Fortune Magazine), not surprising we see Google, Edward Jones and Dreamworks. When employees were asked why they love (yes love) working for the top contenders, they didn’t mention the pay, the expense accounts or advancing to the top title in the Googleplex. They spoke first of the kindness of relationships. These passionate workers described their work culture as an extension of home, or like being with family. They spoke enthusiastically of their colleagues as being fun and supportive. Managers of the Best Companies are characterized as genuinely caring; every single employee truly matters. Work for these fortunate employees is like a favorite gathering place – a place to play at their top level with like minded talent.

9 Things You Must Absolutely Do To Having Winning Relationships At Work

These testimonials reveal that business is nothing more than a human venture built on high caliber relationships. Without deep relationships, leadership doesn’t work. The old model of leadership – which puts profit above people – is dead.

1. Act Like a Human

Organizations run by a closed group of executives hovering above in the “C – suite” are falling. Leading Without A Title, where everyone is a key player is the new way to win in business. This fresh method of leading means that leaders not only master the essential skills but also understand how to act human. You can’t treat human beings like capital – you will lose your greatest talent.

Acting human engages people – human engagement facilitates others towards their brilliance. A refreshing burst of humanity at the office outlasts and outshines the paycheck, the office with the view, or driving the company car. As the lights go out on the stage of old-school leadership, acting human is your game-changing solution.

2. Be One of the Few Who Perfect the Endangered Craft

It’s an amazing time to be alive. Revolutionary technological innovation to enhance our lives, freedom of choice to create the life you love, and the daily opportunity to choose from an endless list of beautiful rewards. Yet an insatiable hunger still lingers inside each one of us – the hunger to be heard. I’m talking about the transformative experience that happens when someone truly listens and totally gets where you are at. I’m talking about listening at the level you feel like the listener is hanging onto each one of your words like they are the most important words in the world.

The new leadership is all about relationships with people. And you can’t relate without listening. It’s impossible. Yet engaged listening is a craft rarely mastered by leaders. You can have the most competent leader in the world, but if he doesn’t listen his leadership potential will go unrealized.

Feeding the hunger to be heard brings out the best in people. People will trust you, respect you and shatter their limitations for you when you give them the gift of listening.

3. Be Scarce

We tend to value that which is scarce. We put a premium on objects and experiences we believe will run out: a Limited edition Gucci Ronson sneaker, a two week showing of Michael Jackson’s This Is It. Reserve wine. We are impacted and motivated most by that which we don’t come across everyday or that which comes in a limited supply. If you are seeking to create long term loyalty in your business relationships, ask yourself what is noticeably scarce? Is it generosity? Authenticity? Encouragement? Spot the scarcity and rock it.

4. Be the Most Positive Person in the Room

Today there is perpetual buzz about the state of the economy, the shock of once-admired organizations collapsing before our eyes and the alarming daily rate of bankruptcy. Yes this is current reality however, focusing relentlessly on negativity is subscribing to failure.

Powerful leaders neutralize the infectious cycle of negativity; they deploy hope where it’s seemingly forsaken. Enlisting yourself as the most positive person in the room breaks the binds of negativity. Change the music and people will either stop dancing or start dancing a new step. Either way, it will set a precedence – “negativity is what everybody else is doing – we are the organization that refuses its limitations.” Utilize the power of positivity to step up and make today better than yesterday.

5. Go Bigger than Your Paycheck

Just when we thought Apple couldn’t wow us anymore they showcased innovation with the iPad, the tablet computer. Amazing. You might not love the design but you have to love how Apple delivers surprise above and beyond. Have the audacity to go bigger than your role. If a colleague is struggling to meet a deadline or lagging in productivity, don’t be the first to point out the deficiency, be the first to roll up your sleeves and do whatever it takes to help out. Knock the status quo “it’s not my job” to its knees and do more than you are paid for.

6. Be the Perfect Investment

When it comes to your relationships, be a dream investment: low cost with exceptional high return. Prove to be a no gossip, no games, no regrets, no maintenance investment of other people’s time and focus. Manage yourself with others at the highest level possible – a.k.a with grace.

7. Get Naked in Your Conversations

Make your conversations count. Speak with candor. Brave the real issue. Say only that which is helpful: don’t use your words to criticize or divide. Anybody can do that. Be radically honest, define reality. Trust is born out of the truth. Sloganeering and masking the truth breeds mistrust and disrespect. Go to the difficult truths and people will go the mile with you.

8. Get Famous for Reliability

Next time a teammate or department is unexpectedly riding the wild rapids, be the person out in the water risking the rapids with them. Become known for acts of reliability.

Every single person needs to take ownership of the organization’s results. Everyone needs to take responsibility for what does or does not get accomplished in a day. Anyone can reach success if they consistently do the right things. Reliability, no matter what, is the right thing. Reliability translates into ownership and taking ownership is a way to present yourself as a leader.

9. Turn Everyone Into a Cover Story

Commit to noticing everyone. The young new associate in the elevator on Monday morning, the CFO’s assistant, the receptionist, the customers, the interns… Remember everyone’s contributions, what’s important to her, what he does well, and what makes everyone smile. Everyone is worthy of being the next cover story and leaders show it.

Sources: Robin Sharma’s February Newsletter – The Business of Relationships